Supporting a friend through Baby Loss
- Leila Hobart
- Apr 8
- 2 min read
When someone we love experiences the loss of a baby—whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death—it can be hard to know what to say or do. The pain is deep, the silence is heavy, and the fear of saying the wrong thing can leave many people doing nothing at all. But silence can feel like abandonment to a grieving parent.
At Little Wings of Hope, we believe no one should face baby loss alone—not the parents, and not the friends and family who want to support them. That’s why we’ve created a free downloadable PDF with practical ways to be there for someone who’s grieving the loss of their baby. You can find the link at the bottom of this post.
Here are a few key ways you can support a friend through baby loss:
1. Acknowledge Their Pain
It’s okay if you don’t have the right words. What matters most is that you acknowledge their loss. You might say something as simple as:
“I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
“I’m here for you.”
“Your baby mattered, and I’m holding space for you.”
Using their baby’s name, if they’ve shared it, is a powerful way to validate their grief.
2. Offer Practical Help
Grief is exhausting. Everyday tasks can feel overwhelming. Instead of saying “Let me know if you need anything,” try something more specific:
“I’d love to drop off a meal on Tuesday. Does that work for you?”
“I’m free to walk the dog or run an errand for you.”
3. Be Present—Now and Later
Many people check in right after the loss, but grief lingers long after the cards stop coming. Remember to:
Send a message weeks or months down the line.
Mark their baby’s birthday or due date in your calendar and reach out on those days.
Sit with them in silence if needed. Your presence is enough.
4. Avoid Unhelpful Phrases
Even with good intentions, some words can feel dismissive. Try to avoid saying:
“At least you can try again.”
“Everything happens for a reason.”
“They’re in a better place.”
Instead, choose empathy over answers. You don’t need to fix their grief—just walk with them through it.
📥 Free Download: "How to Support a Friend After Baby Loss"
We’ve created a free PDF guide with more gentle, practical ways to show up for someone who is grieving. Whether you’re a friend, colleague, or family member, this resource is here to help you feel more confident and compassionate in your support.
👉 Download here: 👉
Supporting someone through loss isn’t about having perfect words—it’s about showing up with kindness, consistency, and love.
You don’t need to fix the pain. You just need to be there.
With love,
The Little Wings of Hope Team
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